when i turn on my car and the music starts its low for a second and then once the amp gets more power the volume jumps up.

That's strange. The amps should not be making any noise at all until the player activates the amp remote wire. I'd hazard a guess that there's a wiring mistake somewhere. Can you detail exactly what your component architecture is and exactly how it's wired?

This is in addition to the statement of trying it with a flat equalizer and the statement of adjusting your amp gains.

And the reason I got TXP and DeadFire mixed up is because I thought DeadFire was saying he had distortion, too. I mis-read. Sorry.