I'm trying to infer from context here that you're looking for a physical portable MP3 player device, right?
Most iPods can be controlled by a button on the headphone cable.
If you look closely, iPod and iPhone headset plugs, the ones with the inline button dealybobs, aren't just tip-ring-sleeve, they are tip-ring-ring-sleeve. That extra ring is for the control interface. I think it's just resistance values, and you could wire up something that fired off the iPod on command pretty easily. I'll see if I can find a resistance value reference.