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Profits happen and sometimes they don't.


My point is that they never, ever, ever do. From my point of view, this is beyond naive. My wife said, through peals of laughter, "let me guess: a man asked this." The whole notion of the crux of your post is so outside the realm of anything I'd ever considered as to make it completely absurd.
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Anyway, I would just never (not ever) go to anyone's wedding without at least covering the cost of my plate. I consider this to just be practical etiquette.


So does this mean you would always bring cash? And calculate the cost of the wedding? I'm not the etiquette expert in my household, but if it were my party, I'd honestly find that rather offensive. It's an implication that I can't afford the party that I'm throwing. Cash as a gift is simply outre, either in giving or in requesting.
If I went to someone's wedding at their house I'd still likely bring cash unless they asked specifically for something else.


I would more likely bring nothing than cash. Cash is insulting. Of course, as you say, some cultures view that as the appropriate gift, and far be it for me to judge someone else's culture, but if we're talking about people anywhere even vaguely close to my peer group, which basically means anyone who grew up in the US without the direct influence of recent immigrants, there is no way any of what you're saying even makes sense.

Also, how can you be sure that the people you said didn't bring anything didn't send their gifts beforehand? I know that when I got married, I had a huge stack of gifts sent to me well before the wedding. The obvious answer is that the bride told you, but an assumption is unwarranted.

I'm not trying to be insulting here, I'm just trying to point out that you're either wildly mistaken (in which case I am being insulting -- sorry about that), or Canadian wedding culture is wildly different from American.
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