I've never come across anyone giving cash as a gift at a wedding. We certainly didn't receive any at our wedding.

I'm afraid I'm in the camp agreeing that your question makes you sound cheap, but I guess its a culture clash kind of thing.

We very deliberately didn't have a wedding list at our wedding. If people wanted to buy us something then fine, but we would have rather had nothing than prescribe to people want they should buy us. Plenty of people didn't bring anything.

We were massively out of pocket for our wedding, we hired an island after all...


...but then we did have a brilliant weekend.