Quote:
Quote:
I just got married in August. I agree 100% with Robotic. We didn't invite people so that we could get prezzies

I never said I did. That's a little insulting.

I guess I see a difference between expecting gifts (I wasn't), and thinking it's polite for people to do so (that's me). You're implying a third, that we practically put on our wedding in order to get gifts.

Having thought about this longer, you're very right -- and I'm sorry to have insulted you. We invited people to our wedding, and told them no gifts were necessary -- yet we still expected that people would ignore our request, and bring gifts anyway. (In fact, I even had a friend tell me, "Dude, it's your wedding... I'm not showing up at your wedding without a gift.") Consequently, we also had a registry.

Going back to the original scenario, though, when the invitations contain envelopes in which people are expected to put cash, I think it's a little easier to make an assumption that the line of thinking there is "if you're coming to my wedding, you'd better put some cash in the envelope." I could easily see people being offended by that. It comes across as a "strings-attached" invitation -- if you accept this invitation, you must give money.

With the western-style invitation, the invitation is "no-strings-attached". While it may be tradition to give a gift, and it's probably rude not to give a gift, accepting the invitation is not actually an obligation to do so.