The same happened to a friend of mine. While I think it's commendable that you, Jeff, and your wife are dealing with this in what seems to be a fairly grown-up manner, don't be surprised if she does get a lawyer, and be prepared to get one of your own.

On a more personal level, you have my sympathy and support. I know that this is not an easy thing to do, or to go through. I hope that it all works out best for everyone.